If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in Vain.
— Emily Dickenson, 1864
This was a favorite poem of Betty’s. If a person had a motto to live by, the words in the poem were Betty’s. Regardless of the need, Betty would do what she could to help ease a person’s sorrow. If someone was sad or worried, she offered words of sympathy or encouragement. If a person just needed someone to talk to, she would listen.
Although she was afflicted with polio before her first birthday, she never let that get in the way of the things she felt needed to be done. Even on the days when she was in pain, she never let it prevent her from putting the needs of others first. She was small in size, but fierce with determination.
Betty delighted in the company of children and babies. She created things and would sometimes make up her own patterns to crochet or knit.
And he loved to cook! She had many recipe books, magazines, and notebooks filled with recipes she had cut out of newspapers or magazines and taped to the pages. Her husband joked he was never sure what the name of the dish was he was eating — or what country it originated from — but whatever it was, it was always good.
She loved reading, watching movies on Saturday nights and playing her favorite records on Sundays.
Although she and her husband could not go to church, she made sure her children went to every Sunday morning. She had strong faith in Christ and wanted to make sure her children grew up believing in Him and knowing that He is always with us.
Betty Jane Jones Ingram passed away on Tuesday, Sept. 5, 2017. She was proceeded in death by her husband, Grover (Dutch) Ingram; her son, Terry L. Ingram and grandson, Dustin Alexander Wind. Betty was the 13th child born to Roy and Zena Jones in Oklahoma. Both parents died before she was 3 years old and she was raised by her 3rd oldest sibling, Sylvia Jones (John) Denton.
In 1966, Betty and Dutch became foster parents, and for the next 28 years, cared for over 300 babies and children in their home. In the 1970s, along with other foster parents in the area, they began having monthly meetings to discuss things they could do to better help the children in foster care. At Christmas, they would send out letters to various organizations for toy donations, which helped in making the older children’s Christmas wishes possible. Together with her husband Dutch, they gave love and comfort to many children who had no one.
Betty is survived by her daughter, Holly Ingram Wind; daughter Kimberly (Eddie) Dunn; grandchildren Crosby Dunn of Conway; Lacy (Chris) Klinger and son of Virginia; Christopher Ingram of Maryland; Douglas (Leslie) Ingram and children of Texas; Tyler Ingram of California; and Jennifer Ingram and children, of Arizona.
Betty will be remembered for her humor, her generosity, and her kindness. She will be missed greatly by her family and friends.
To the many people who’ve cared for Betty at Lakewood Plaza Nursing Home — her family would like to thank all of the employees — past and present — who’ve cared for her and who’ve gone out of their way to make her feel special and loved. For the last several years, you’ve been remembered in our prayers for the kindness you’ve given to her. We pray God will bless each and every one of you.
To honor Betty, instead of flowers, the family asks that you donate to your local Food Bank, Meals on Wheels or local no- kill animal shelter. Visitation will be held on Thursday, Sept. 7 at 1:00 p.m. at Rest Hills Funeral Home, followed by a graveside service at 2 p.m. in Rest Hills Memorial Park, 7724 Landers Road in NLR. www.griffinleggettresthills.com